Old sayings have meaning

I learnt the other day the importance of an old saying that was fairly meaningless before,  'you can't judge a book by its cover'.

I met a friend of a friend a while back and didn't give him the time of day, mainly because he was wearing a tie dyed wife-beater and seemed a bit strange. I also heard via the grapevine (dangerous) a story or two of him doing some funny business so decided he was one bloke I wanted to stay as far away from as possible.

I recently went away over Easter with a bunch of randoms. Know one really knew the other well but we somehow all ended up together in a Vito driving up the east coast of South Africa. You can imagine my surprise when I hopped into the Vito and one of the seats is taken up by the bloke (lets call him Jack). 'This trip is going to be rather interesting I thought to myself'.

However from the minute the trip began I felt attracted to Jack, his energy, smile, everything about him but not in a sexual way more like a brotherly way. I felt so safe and content in his company and had to be near him all the time. It felt like I knew him in another life or something. I am not sure of my religious views that is a whole different topic. He got me and I got him!

Needless to say it was the best holiday of my life. I laughed the whole holiday, the kind of laugh that reaches your soul and you think to yourself that self actualisation must feel like this.

I was quite shocked and disappointed in myself that I could misjudge someone so wrongly and feel like I have lost out on a few years of great laughs with Jack. Luckily he is here now and I hope that I will be sitting around his dinner table in our 40's laughing about that crazy trip we took over one Easter in our youth.

I will never judge someone again until I get to know them first. Jack taught me a great life lesson.

Adele - Someone like you

There is nothing wrong with scattered ducks

I am 26 and I feel like life is flashing before my eyes. It felt like only yesterday I was discussing my first kiss on a bench at school with friends. On that same bench we discussed many topics, one being where we would be in 10 years time. According to that discussion I am now supposed to be married to my soul mate with two children and running a successful company. I couldn't be further from it! I am single, still waiting for my knight in shining armour, (yes I believe everyone has one and you might not meet him/her in this life but you will in one of your life's) children will come with the knight. About this successful company... that dream is still very much alive.

When I compare myself to my friends (I know you shouldn't but you can't help doing it sometimes) I feel like I have not accomplished much or at least not what I thought I would have by now. But then I remind myself that I have lost, I have loved, I have helped, I have traveled, I have studied, I am working, I have laughed till I cried on many occasions, I have hope, dreams, ambition and most importantly I have LIFE.

Nothing happens the way you think it will, one can only plan so far. I never thought that the friends who are engaged would have been the first or that the one who is having a baby boy in two months would have been the first to be knocked up. Such is life!  I am learning as I live that you can only do so much and the rest is left to fate / God / a higher being or what ever you want to call it. That is what makes life so exciting, it is so unpredictable.

It doesn't matter where you are in life as long as you are living it and loving it. If you aren't it's time to reassess and make some changes, you are living this life for you and no one else!

I might not have my ducks in a row (expected norm) but I am having a blast getting them in this row.

Listened to Bon Iver - Blindsided and rest of album